ECF on Monday…

…the one with all the I can’t believe he’s gone.

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Flowers from Kim!

Before anyone freaks out, RR is fine.  Our life got turned upside down this week but we’re coping.

Eleven years ago, I was dating a bass player in a band and R was this guy I knew who hung out with the band guys.  Then, I was breaking up with the bass player and R was turning into a friend with the possibility of becoming more than a friend.  I remember talking to the other band members (not the bass player, obviously) and asking them what they thought of the whole situation.  I have a clear memory of the drummer, Jamie, telling me, “R is a good guy, you should give him a shot.”  So I did, and I haven’t regretted it once.

I wish I’d had a chance to thank Jamie for that, I wish I had a chance for a lot of things.

Jamie was taken from us on Tuesday night.  He was one of the kindest, funniest, off-the-wall people I’ve ever known and he will be deeply missed.

I really don’t have any words for this, I don’t know how to deal with losing a good friend who touched our life so much.  I’m blogging about it because I need to put my pain out there so I can try to get back to having a blog that’s mostly my ‘happy place’.  Thanks for listening.

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38 thoughts on “ECF on Monday…

  1. Manise says:

    I am so sorry Jess for your and R’s loss! Life can be so unfair. Sudden death is really tough as it doesn’t allow one to say goodbye or thank you. It robs one of closure. Clutch those wonderful memories you have of him- they will provide some comfort when the pain is awful. In time it will get better. Many hugs to you my friend. You know where you can find me.

  2. Laurie says:

    Ouch. There seems no rhyme or reason to stuff like this. It’s a gut punch. Time and love help.

  3. jill says:

    I’m sorry this has happened. I have no words of wisdom to offer you, only sympathy and warm thoughts and prayers.

  4. The little things so often slip our minds, or we think we’ll get around to them someday, and things go unsaid or undone. It’s a slap in the face when suddenly that time runs out. I’m sorry that your friend died so young, and I sympathize with your loss. I can only imagine how I’d feel in your place!

    Hugs if I see you tomorrow. Tell Roger I’m thinking of him too.

  5. The loss of someone of our own generation is so much harder to deal with, in its way, than someone who is older. Somehow it feels more wrong, out of order in some way, and we are left saying “WTF?”

    My sincerest sympathy to you and R. If there’s anything I can do, please let me know.
    .-= Harriet´s last blog post …How Cool Is This? =-.

  6. I’m just getting caught up on my blog-reading. . . I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. I hope you can find some peace in your memories. . . but it might take a long time to get there. So sorry. Thinking of you.
    .-= Kym´s last blog post …No Such Thing as Too Many Candles =-.

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